Bonding with your child

Control your anger
Parents usually try to justify treating their children badly (shouting at them, insulting them and in some cases, even hitting them for their mistakes) by saying, "That's how I was raised and I turned out alright." This kind of defense is normally used by the angry and power-hungry adult. Only emotionally irresponsible adults act in this fashion.

Always be ready to listen
This is one of the most important skills that you need to hone, if you wish to build and then sustain a meaningful, healthy and happy relationship with your child. You can win the trust and love of your child forever if you just lend an empathetic ear to your child. Never assume that children feelings are less important than those of adults.

Prioritize the relationship
Reorganize your list of priorities. Make sure your relationship with your child is there at the top of the list. When a parent focuses on relating to the child on the basis of who he/she is, rather than on what he/she should be, the bond between the two is likely to be stronger.

Tips to have a fitter you

Breathe right!
Whether you are 80 or 20, breathing right is extremely important. It can prolong longevity, release stress and help you meditate. Our busy lifestyles have made us shallow breathers — the chest doesn't rise when you inhale and the stomach doesn't swell while exhaling, which is what happens when one breathes right. During exercise, follow this simple mantra of breathing —
exhale, when you are going against gravity and inhale, when you come back to gravity.

Drink enough water
Stay hydrated by having enough fluids. Also, one must take six small meals a day and ensure that the last meal is the lightest. Do not cut out carbs from your diet as these are important for the brain's functioning. Start your day with a high-carb diet such as salads and then as the day progresses, cut down on carbs and increase proteins.

Get an exercise routine
It is very important to follow some sort of fitness routine. It is not necessary to go to a gym and sweat it out, you could also opt for mild walks, dancing, hiking or whatever makes you happy. When you do this, learn to disconnect from the outer world and spend time with yourself. Make stretching a crucial part of your lifestyle.

Fitness Mantra

Health encompasses five dimensions of wellness - physical, physiological, psychological, emotional and spiritual. "Good health and fitness is not a fad. It is a prerequisite for a healthy life. One has to stop the constant chase for unrealistic goals that cause great harm to one's physical and mental health. These not only deteriorate the quality of our existence, but also lead to degeneration, disintegration and erosion. To counter this, one must begin to heal oneself with an integrated approach. Good nutrition, appropriate foods, regular moderate exercises, yoga, meditation and good rest are essential to remove all energy blocks

Read more: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/fitness/Whats-your-fitness-mantra/articleshow/6063206.cms#ixzz11DqFLdsi

Thought of the day

The young have aspirations that never come to pass, the old have reminiscences of what never happened

चला सुखी होऊया

सात आश्चर्य

या जगात सगल्यांना माहित असलेले आश्चर्य:
१) ईजिप्त pyramids
२) आगरा ताज महल
३) ग्रैंड canyon
३) पनामा कालवा
४) Empire स्टेट बिल्डिंग
५) सैंट पीटर'स बासिलिक
६) चीन भिंत
पण वर्गात गुरुजीनी हा प्रश्न विचारला असता, एका चिमुकलिने वेगलेच उत्तर दिले.
तिच्या मते जगातील सात आश्चर्य खालिलप्रमाने होती:
१) स्पर्श
२) चव
३) दृष्टी
४) ऐकणे
५) अनुभव घेणे
६) हसने
७) प्रेम करणे
ज्या गोष्टी अतिशय साध्या, सामान्य वाटतात, आपल्यात अणि आपल्या आजुबाजुला ज्या नेहमीच इतस्ततः विखुरलेल्या असतात आणि ज्यांना आपण काहीच किंमत देत नाही त्याच जास्त सुंदर अणि मौल्यवान असतात.

Thought of the day

Hard times are like a washing machine,they twist,turn & knock us around, but in the end we come out... cleaner, brighter & better than before :-)

Carrot, egg or coffee beans

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling for various things in her life. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.' 'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed that the egg was hard boiled.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?' Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

The mother continues “Are you the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength? Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Do you have a fluid spirit, which after a difficult situation become hardened and stiff? Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? Tell me Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

That’s when the daughter understood what her mother had just thought her through this simple example!

So let us try and remember the coffee beans as we hold our coffee cups.

Food for Thought

Me and my friend have started a new soul enriching forum; 'Food for Thought' for personal development.
I will share all those inspiring thoughts on this blog which we are discussing with each other daily.
Today we were talking about a great motivational speaker Jim Rohn, who has mentored many successful people.
http://www.jimrohn.com/

Here is one video which is worth watching:

Jim Rohn Setting Goals: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuObJcgfSQA

Changing habbits

It takes 21 days to improvise any task and make it as a habit. For instance - Waking up early everyday. If you make an effort to wake up early everyday at the same time for 21 days; on the 22nd day your body is tuned to it and it becomes a habit for you to wake up early.
- shared by my friend

Marathi bodh katha

Amrutvel

Personal Empowerment

Use Empowering Words When You Talk to Yourself
(whether you are speaking out loud or silently)

How do you talk to yourself?

Do you use the words "can't", "won't", "don't need to", "why try"?
Many people do.

Do you find that what you say to yourself turns out to be true?

Why is this?

You see your brain is like a computer that you feed each day. It doesn't know always know what's real or not unless you tell it.

Example: If someone you love has hurt you, you may tell yourself that all people who love you will probably hurt you too.

Your brain just files this information for reference, it's data, little zeroes and ones and no column that asks "true or not true?" Now your brain thinks, based on what you told it, that everyone you'll ever love will hurt you.

How do you think you will respond the next time you get hurt?

Right!!

Now, what if we instead told our brain:

"Okay this person ripped my heart out - but that's only one person. I'm lovable and have many loving people in my life who are not out to hurt me. I know that the right people are coming into my life all the time. If someone hurts me, I will forgive them and bless them on their way."

Words can be empowering.

I can
I love to
I want to
I will
I must
I am

We can reach a new level of living, if we feed ourselves empowering words and practice saying them until they become a habit.

I know first hand that it takes time.

And I also know that it's worth it.

Try it for a week.

Catch yourself saying, "I can't", when you don't really mean it and instead try, "I can", and see how you think and feel about yourself.

Remember, the words you use to empower yourself will have a lasting effect, only if you practice them and they become a habit (an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary).

Dream big and empower yourself! Believe you can and you will.

Robin Sharma TMC

I'm dedicating this post to a special friend who has always been an inspirational and motivational point for me. Her thoughts have special place in my heart!

She introduced me with the site : Robin Sharma's The Monthly Coach.
Robin Sharma is a leadership expert and an author of bestsellers like 'The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari'

Today i saw few videos, and i felt like i was looking exactly something like this from many days. It's really inspiring and helpful to regenerate my lost confidence and energy level.

I hope i will be able to follow all the action steps soon.

Thanks my dear friend for such an invaluable gift!

If Today Was Your Last Day

If Today Was Your Last Day lyrics Songwriters: Kroeger, Chad;My best friend gave me the best advice He said each day's a gift and not a given right Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind And try to take the path less traveled by That first step you take is the longest stride If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late Could you say goodbye to yesterday? Would you live each moment like your last Leave old pictures in the past? Donate every dime you had, if today was your last day? What if, what if, if today was your last day? Against the grain should be a way of life What's worth the price is always worth the fight Every second counts 'cause there's no second try So live like you're never living twice Don't take the free ride in your own life If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late Could you say goodbye to yesterday? Would you live each moment like your last? Leave old pictures in the past? Donate every dime you had? And would you call those friends you never see? Reminisce old memories? Would you forgive your enemies? And would you find that one you're dreaming of? Swear up and down to God above That you'd finally fall in love if today was your last day? If today was your last day Would you make your mark by mending a broken heart? You know it's never too late to shoot for the stars Regardless of who you are So do whatever it takes 'Cause you can't rewind a moment in this life Let nothing stand in your way 'Cause the hands of time are never on your side If today was your last day and tomorrow was too late Could you say goodbye to yesterday? Would you live each moment like your last? Leave old pictures in the past? Donate every dime you had? And would you call those friends you never see? Reminisce old memories? Would you forgive your enemies? And would you find that one you're dreaming of Swear up and down to God above That you'd finally fall in love if today was your last day?